My first book, Renovate Your Relationships (Thomas Nelson, 2019) is rooted in field-tested content I developed and taught in community workshops around the country. Here’s the publisher’s description:
We all have people in our lives who are difficult—a demanding boss, annoying neighbor, manipulative family member, or controlling spouse. How do you narrow the gap between where things stand today with that person—and where you want things to be the future?
In Renovate Your Relationships, I help you:·
Gain an accurate view of what’s really going on in the relationship
Determine the ideal balance between protecting yourself (setting boundaries) and accepting the other person (building bridges).
Set boundaries with confidence through the Renovate Your Relationships Pathway.
The concepts in Renovate Your Relationships have been field-tested by thousands of people—executives, couples, parents, volunteers—through my Relate series of workshops. With plenty of real-life stories and ground-breaking tools, this book can help you improve your relationship with even the most challenging person—and leave you equipped to renovate every relationship in your life.
Past Present explores the unique ways our upbringing and past significant relationships helped form us—in beautiful and also broken ways. Past Present’s concepts have been field-tested for many years, helping countless people identify where those early experiences show up in their relationships today, and offering hope that we can discover and maximize how each experience has formed who we are today. Here’s the publisher’s description:
Past Present shows readers how to change destructive relationship patterns by identifying the root issues from their pasts and finding healing for their unique stories.
No matter where we are in life, both our greatest joys and our deepest heartaches are linked to the people in our lives—family, friends, or coworkers. And each of us brings both beauty and brokenness into relationships. The origins of our beauty and our brokenness often can be traced to the patterns of relating we learned when we were young. We relate to others in ways that reflect the distorted messages we heard and internalized earlier in life. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck in these patterns. In Past Present, Scott Vaudrey equips us with tools and a strategy to
identify the messages we've internalized—both as children and as adults—from the influential people in our lives;
refute and repair the distorted messages that led to unhelpful patterns now holding us back; and
recognize the productive messages we've internalized and maximize the strengths they built into us along the way.
We can't undo yesterday. But we can do the rest of our lives better.